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The Linen Closet

August 24, 2025
Cat
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Luna vanished the day the contractors came.

The front door had been left open. Not for long, maybe a minute, just long enough. She wasn’t used to the noise, wasn’t used to the outdoors, and in that moment of panic, she must’ve bolted. That was the story. It made sense. There was no sign of her inside the house. I assumed the worst, because it looked like the worst. And once you decide something like that, it calcifies.

I canvassed the neighborhood with printed flyers. I walked the streets calling her name. I left food out and knocked on doors. I was methodical. I left no stone unturned, outside.

I never opened the linen closet.

Instead, I hired a pet detective. A real one with tracking dogs, cameras, cages, all of it. They followed her scent through the neighborhood and stopped a few blocks away. It was high alert; it felt promising. A woman nearby said a new black cat had been showing up at her house. The timing lined up. We gave her the trap and she agreed to monitor it.

But then it got worse.

A man contacted me. Said he’d found a black cat that looked like Luna a few blocks from my house. He sent a blurry photo, just enough to stir hope, not enough to confirm anything. He said he’d bring her to me, but needed gas money first. It was a scam. I knew it. But I was desperate and exhausted. I had handed him a flyer myself. Spoken to him in person. He was supposed to be one of the good guys.

I paid him. He asked for more. I blocked him.

A week passed with nothing happening, no trap results or footage. Just silence. My cat was gone. My hope was gone. I felt sick every time I opened the front door.

And then, for no reason I can name, I opened the linen closet.

She was in there. Alive and calm, just curled behind the towels.

She blinked at me, then walked to the litter box, and nuzzled Roy. Nothing about her behavior suggested trauma. She had been locked in that closet for a week, and she was fine.

I had never looked there. Not once. Because I knew she had gone outside. I’d watched the door hang open. I’d played the story in my head. It made so much sense that I didn’t question it. I never even noticed the closet was closed.

And because of that, because I knew she was outside, I gave a flyer to the man who would scam me. I searched the whole neighborhood. I hired a tracker. I cried. I barely ate. And I left my cat in the closet.

The Office Alcoholic

August 17, 2025
Addiction, Work
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I don’t know what fucking genius in management thought putting a fully stocked liquor fridge in the office kitchen was a good idea. This was 2016, peak startup culture, where “work hard, play hard” meant having beer on tap and calling alcoholism “company culture.”

The fridge appeared one Monday morning like some kind of corporate honey trap. Vodka, the good stuff, not bottom-shelf swill. Ostensibly for “company events” and “team building.” In reality, it was like putting a loaded gun in a room full of depressed people.

I wasn’t the only one with a drinking problem at that company. But I was the known quantity. The guy who reeked of booze at 9 AM meetings. The one who got a little too animated at happy hours and stayed too late at company parties.

So when I started taking little sips here and there. Just a shot of vodka to get through the afternoon slump, I thought I was being discrete.

But apparently everyone was doing it. The bottles emptied faster than management expected. The vodka simply disappeared. It became obvious that employees were treating the company liquor like their personal stash.

The difference was, when management started having meetings about the missing alcohol, only one name came up. Mine.

I wasn’t invited to these meetings, obviously. But I could read the room. The way conversations stopped when I walked by. The knowing looks. The careful avoidance of eye contact. I could piece together exactly what was being discussed in those closed-door sessions with everyone who wasn’t me.

Everyone thought it was me. Every missing bottle. The office alcoholic had struck again.

The reality was probably that I’d taken maybe twenty percent of what disappeared. But once you’re labeled “the person with the drinking problem,” every missing drop gets attributed to you.

That’s when I realized how visible my drinking had become. I thought it was a secret, but actually I’d become a workplace character: the guy with the problem. Everyone knew.

I went to my first AA meeting that week.

Not because I was ready to get sober. Even though the humiliation of being the office alcoholic felt unbearable, I continued to drink myself to sleep every night.

The liquor fridge disappeared shortly after that. Management probably realized it wasn’t the brilliant culture-building move they’d imagined.

But the damage was done. I was the alcoholic. And once that label sticks, it follows you into every interaction, every meeting, every performance review.

The worst part is, they weren’t wrong.

How Jamie Died

August 10, 2025
Addiction, Grief
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When they prescribed me Adderall again, I wasn’t addicted anymore. That part of my life was over, or at least it felt that way. I didn’t think about how I’d quit or what it had taken, because I wasn’t ready to pick that apart yet. But taking it again forced me into a question I couldn’t avoid: how do you reconcile needing something you were once addicted to.

Life without it had been worse than I wanted to admit. I could go to work, have conversations, finish some things, but never without friction. Focus slipped away constantly. Everything felt slower. It was the kind of constant, low-grade difficulty that wears you down. When I went back on Adderall, it wasn’t a dramatic choice. It was quiet, deliberate, and I decided from the start I would take it exactly as prescribed. I have kept that promise ever since.

My brother never got that chance. His doctors refused to prescribe him Adderall because of his history with opioids, as if they were the same drug or the same danger. He needed it. If we’re being honest, he needed the opioids too, for his pain. It was the same problem I had faced, needing the thing you were once addicted to, except in his case he was denied.

That denial sent him looking for something else. He found propylhexedrine, an over-the-counter stimulant that is harsh, dirty, and incredibly dangerous. He took it for years. In 2016, at twenty-eight years old, his heart gave out.

I still have my prescription. I still take it every day. And I’m still here.

The Walk to Kirkland

August 3, 2025
Addiction, Grief
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It was one of those days where the sky feels fake. Blue in a way that seems digitally retouched. My roommates and I didn’t have plans, just inertia, so we decided to walk from Bellevue to Kirkland. No destination, just movement. The kind of aimless day that makes you feel young and whole and not important.

We laughed a lot. Talked about nothing. Walked too far. It felt good. I felt good.

I don’t remember walking back, but we must have. I was back in the apartment when my phone rang. My dad’s name on the screen. I answered with some joke ready to go. I don’t remember what it was. Doesn’t matter. He cut me off mid-sentence.

“Andy. Andy, this is serious. Jamie died.”

There was a pause. My body heard it before I did. Then I said “I have to go” and hung up. Not out of rudeness. Just because the world went offline.

I got in my car and drove to the store. I bought a fifth of liquor. Came home. I don’t remember anything after that.

It wasn’t even to mourn him. I drank because I didn’t know what else to do. Because grief didn’t have a shape yet but alcohol did. Alcohol had always had its job, and this was its moment.

He was dead. I was gone. And the day, bright and pointless and full of nothing, was over.